Navigating Ethical Non-Monogamy

Looking for Ethical Non-Monogamy-Affirming counseling in North Carolina, Virginia, or Tennessee? You’re in the right place.

  • Will you try to make me be monogamous?

    No.

    ENM-affirming therapy does not have a monogamy agenda. Your therapist’s role is not to change your relationship structure, but to help you deepen self-understanding, communication, safety, and emotional health within the structure you choose.

    You are not broken, selfish, or avoidant for wanting non-monogamy. You are allowed to build relationships that actually fit you.

  • Do you also support polyamorous and relationship-anarchist structures?

    Yes.


    Therapy at Mosaic Minds affirms: polyamory, relationship anarchy, hierarchical and non-hierarchical relationships, solo poly, nesting partnerships. fluid bonding and evolving structures.

    There is no “right” way to do relationships — only what is consensual, communicative, and aligned with your values.

  • Can therapy help with jealousy and insecurity in ENM relationships?

    Absolutely. Jealousy, comparison, fear of abandonment, and insecurity are very common in non-monogamous relationships and do not mean you are doing ENM wrong.

    Therapy helps you:

    1) understand the roots of jealousy

    2) build nervous system regulation

    3) strengthen secure attachment

    4) develop communication tools

    5) learn to self-soothe and ask for reassurance

  • Is ENM-affirming therapy only for people who are already practicing non-monogamy?

    Not at all. People seek ENM-affirming therapy for many reasons, including:

    1) curiosity about opening a relationship

    2) transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy

    3) recovering from infidelity and renegotiating agreements

    4) navigating mismatched desire for monogamy vs. non-monogamy

    5) processing stigma or fear around being open

    You don’t need to “already know” what you want. Therapy is a place for exploration without pressure.

  • Can ENM relationships be healthy and stable?

    Yes.

    Research and clinical experience show that consensual non-monogamous relationships can be just as healthy, loving, and secure as monogamous ones when they are rooted in honesty, respect, and communication.

    Like any relationship structure, ENM has its unique challenges—which is where therapy can be especially helpful.

  • What does ENM-affirming therapy look like?

    ENM-affirming therapy is a space where you don’t have to defend your relationship structure. Your therapist understands non-monogamy as a legitimate relationship choice and helps you navigate it with care and clarity.

    In ENM-affirming therapy, you can work on communication skills, jealousy and insecurity, attachment styles, boundary setting, time and energy management, repairing ruptures, aligning agreements with values, and more.

    The goal is not to push you toward monogamy, but to help your relationships feel healthier, safer, and more sustainable.